Same times!

Past weekend was OK. Saturday night, we all went out for dinner, then few of us tried to "go out" for late night fun. Of course we had wrong expectations by taking two minors with us. We will try Thursday night without minors. I want to see what all the hype is about, going to night clubs, getting drunk and being careless. Sunday, we all went out shopping for my daughter's birthday party. I and Zohal worked out in the evening and I finally put my baby to sleep around 1am. That has to change!!!
I caught myself thinking about him early morning. That is why I said " same times". During the last 4 years of my life, I have done this a lot. He has been on my mind day and night. That needs to stop. If I act the same way as I did for the last 4 years, that means I haven't learned a damn thing in the last years. If you don't learn anything for years, then check your pulse, you might be dead. Time for big time, real change.
How can I stop being so damn emotional? How can I stop thinking with my heart and start thinking with my head? How can I apply what I know?
I don't know the answer to these questions. But that shouldn't stop me from taking small steps and implementing the much needed change. So little by little. For the up comping week, I need to run my errands, exercise and make sure I look my best for the weekend.
I will return within a week and log my achievements. It all sounds so childish, teenager like. But at least I am doing what I have to do now, if not earlier, then later. Better than never.

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