Love
It took me over 5 years to realize what real life love is and I am still trying to adjust my day to day attitude and behavior according to that. Old habits die hard.
I love my husband and lately, I can see how he is trying and adjusting to me and my emotional moodiness. He is doing his part, I should do mine.
He needs my support and companionship more than before. And I need to be there for him in a strong and selfless manner. It is much harder than being said. To change habits while living the same challenges everyday, it takes more time, many fall backs and many attempts to make the permanent change. I keep falling back into the old circle of behavior, then I realize I should have behaved differently and then I promise myself it will be different next time and next time, I don't carry out my promise or I fail to be consistent.
In afghanistan, many factors contributed to women having a much simpler marriage. They simply accepted the type of behavior from their husbands that are argumentive here, and husbands weren't as accountable and transparent in their actions and decisions as in the US.
I am glad I live in the US, where I share the responsibility and authority with my husband and where you can make your marriage more meaningful than a relationship of sex and labor.
A change of society, education, time and lifestyle change the meaning of many phenomena in life. Love has a different definition in afghanistan than in the US. Marriage works differently there than here. I must take up the golden opportunity and transform my marriage into a companionship that will grow as we age. I must adjust my attitude of love and compassion in a healthy and practical way to nurture my relationship with my husband. He is making efforts on his side and I respect him for that. Love you!!
I love my husband and lately, I can see how he is trying and adjusting to me and my emotional moodiness. He is doing his part, I should do mine.
He needs my support and companionship more than before. And I need to be there for him in a strong and selfless manner. It is much harder than being said. To change habits while living the same challenges everyday, it takes more time, many fall backs and many attempts to make the permanent change. I keep falling back into the old circle of behavior, then I realize I should have behaved differently and then I promise myself it will be different next time and next time, I don't carry out my promise or I fail to be consistent.
In afghanistan, many factors contributed to women having a much simpler marriage. They simply accepted the type of behavior from their husbands that are argumentive here, and husbands weren't as accountable and transparent in their actions and decisions as in the US.
I am glad I live in the US, where I share the responsibility and authority with my husband and where you can make your marriage more meaningful than a relationship of sex and labor.
A change of society, education, time and lifestyle change the meaning of many phenomena in life. Love has a different definition in afghanistan than in the US. Marriage works differently there than here. I must take up the golden opportunity and transform my marriage into a companionship that will grow as we age. I must adjust my attitude of love and compassion in a healthy and practical way to nurture my relationship with my husband. He is making efforts on his side and I respect him for that. Love you!!
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