Money

I am starting to realize the power of money on any relationship and especially on marriage. You would  think love and understanding and communication are the top rescue ropes of a marriage. But financial difficulty can undermine all this. Whether make more money of live below your means in order to eliminate this risk factor of chaos in your marriage. This is a much bigger problem in western worlds than eastern. In Afghanistan, there is less materialism and fewer bills to be paid than in America. Also since the power struggle has already been settled down in favor of husband, the wife has one less issue to worry about. Less authority, fewer responsibilities. That translates into less stress and more peace of mind. Of course, that comes with a price, but then again you always pay a price for something more meaningful in your life. Then it comes down to what is the price of a peaceful mind? What will you give up to be less stressed? Here in the US we try to be in control of every aspect of our lives. We feel the need to protect ourselves from everything. We are always on the look out. In Afghanistan, it is a more relaxed mentality. If you are fed and sheltered for the next couple days, you are in peace. As a wife, all you need to worry about is cooking and cleaning and your social circle of other women and related gossip. Even working women don't have much of authority and thus less stress. So what will you give up to be stress free? Control? Money?